Our second session clearly reminds me being a Highly Sensitive Person is something we all need to know about. If we are not one, I am sure we know someone who is one. Probably as parents, we need to educate ourselves what a Highly Sensitive Person is.
The Highly Sensitive Person, the research work of Dr. Elaine Aron
Here is an entire world of relief. Tests, articles and even proof that you are not TOO MUCH!
When we are sensitive we have a entirely different world we live in compared to non-sensitive people. It's as if our skin is thin instead of thick. ‘Take it like a man’ is our nightmare. We are sensitive, gentle, sweet, kind and loving. We can't even help it. The world is not like that, nor understands how we could be so fragile at times. We think others are brutes and animals and don't understand how they can be so dense and ignorant. As a child, our parents are our primary reference for the world. If they are not sensitive then we are convinced we are the ones who are odd, broken, don't fit in, must be from another planet, and suspicious that we were adopted because we surely don't belong to this family. ‘What's the matter with you?!’, was the typical reaction when we were simply being ourselves.
There was a funny moment for me when Anxiety showed up. I saw a little snippy dog, like a Terrier, barking and running underfoot - hyper, obnoxious, and can't even communicate with it. That's the nature of Anxiety.
When I feel Anxious, it gets coupled with nervous and scared. For Rebecca, it was a helpful, strong and protectful part.
We are all wired differently. It's the way we cope with life and events that shape us into who we are. We often think, the past is in the past, who cares. Not true. We live FROM the past.