For so long, I was rough on myself. I think there was so much hollering going on in my mind - I was nervous to do anything - afraid I would do it wrong - afraid I didn't deserve a good life. I figured - why would I be going through all of this anxiety if I hadn't done something wrong? Well, I didn't. I didn't do anything wrong - and I didn't deserve the anxiety. However - what I did do - or rather didn't do - was practice self care. I wasn't gentle on myself. So in turn - others weren't gentle on me either. Until....I found my way. I found my voice. I found people who saw the "real" me and said, "You're such a wonderful person." You know, it's strange, my friends have been telling me that for some time - and I thought - oh they just say that - they don't mean that. They did mean it! And now - I believe them!
I did a short podcast about being gentle. Here it is:
I've also gotten in the habit of listening to songs - songs I've sung to other people - love songs - ballads - and now...I sing them to myself. Try it out. Do you know what I feel it does for me? It reminds me to fall in love with myself - over and over and over again. It reminds me - sure falling in love - feeling love for others is wonderful - but...remember - falling in love with myself is the most important, validating, encouraging and delicious thing I can do.
Here is my short video - of me singing Come Rain or Come Shine.
Take all of this slow. There is no pressure. These are suggestions. I'm sharing stuff that has and is working for me. I still go through my own stuff - jumping over hurdles - feeling insecure - but.....BUT.....I'm still practicing, focusing and spending time falling in love with ME.