Thanksgiving is just around the corner. I have participated in all kinds of gatherings. I've had big parties - where both friends and family are welcome, and the turn out is lots of people eating and laughing in the house. I've had small gatherings. I've eaten out at a restaurant with just my mom. I've engaged in food fights, had emotional crying outbursts, and one year we tried Cornish Hens instead of turkey. Cause why not?
In the last several years, we've kept it simple. I actually like it. The idea of getting on a plane with the family flying somewhere cold (because my husband's family lives where the temperatures drop below 0) - just doesn't appeal to me. We've done it. I end up actually feeling more alone and overwhelmed at a huge gathering - than hanging with the intimate family nibbling and noshing on good food.
The holiday's delight me. But let me explain why. It's because I've been fine tuning what delights me. And sometimes that's a stay at home - small relaxing holiday wearing pajamas. Okay - I haven't done that yet - but doesn't that sound delightful? Eat in your p.j.'s. You're already in comfy clothes - so when you feel full, tired and just want to lie down - you're ready in perfect attire for the occasion.
I think some of us feel the pressure of putting on that "perfect" holiday show. But what is perfect? My idea of perfect is laughter, joy, calm, and feeling at peace.
Whatever it is you will be doing - take care of you. I will take moments to just look around and say - hey - I'm grateful for me. I'm grateful I'm here. I'm grateful for my family, friends and pets .I'm grateful I have what I have - and I don't have to look at what anyone else has - because my plate - looks pretty good.
And I wish that good delicious feeling for you too.
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Keep taking those moments to look at yourself and say I'm OK. I'm worthy. I have a place here. I'm healing. I deserve to feel and be loved.